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It may not come as a surprise to parents, but having children really does impinge on marital bliss.
Nine in ten couples suffer a downturn in 'marital satisfaction' once the first child is born, according to an eight-year study.
And relationship and stress problems are worse for those who live together before getting married and starting a family.
The findings will ring true for millions of parents who found everything from their finances to their sex lives suddenly changed with a new arrival.
But the researchers insist the findings should not be seen as a reason to remain childless as bringing children into the world can bring a 'whole dimension of family happiness'.
Psychologists at the universities of Denver and Texas examined the marriages of around 220 couples over an eight-year period.
They found 90 per cent suffered what they called a 'decrease in marital satisfaction' after the birth of a child.
Childless couples suffered the same problems - only a little later, explained Denver University psychology professor Scott Stanley.
He said: 'Couples who do not have children also show diminished marital quality over time.
However, having a baby accelerates the deterioration, especially seen during periods of adjustment right after the birth of a child.'
The research, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, found relationship problems were worse for those who had lived together first - possibly because long-established shared routines are more disrupted by new arrivals.
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也許這對(duì)于為人父母者來(lái)說(shuō)并不奇怪，但生孩子的確會(huì)影響婚姻幸福。
一項(xiàng)為期八年的調(diào)查顯示，90%的夫妻在第一個(gè)孩子出生后“婚姻滿意度”下降。
對(duì)在結(jié)婚成家之前就已經(jīng)同居的人來(lái)說(shuō)，生孩子對(duì)兩人關(guān)系的影響及其所帶來(lái)的壓力問(wèn)題更為嚴(yán)重。
這些調(diào)查結(jié)果對(duì)于很多為人父母者來(lái)說(shuō)似乎的確如此。他們發(fā)現(xiàn)，隨著小生命的降臨，家庭經(jīng)濟(jì)狀況以及兩人的性生活等一切問(wèn)題突然都發(fā)生了變化。
但研究人員強(qiáng)調(diào)，這項(xiàng)調(diào)查結(jié)果不應(yīng)成為不要孩子的理由，因?yàn)楹⒆訒?huì)帶來(lái)一種“全方位的家庭幸福”。
丹佛大學(xué)和得克薩斯大學(xué)的心理學(xué)家在為期八年的時(shí)間里對(duì)大約220對(duì)夫妻的婚姻狀況進(jìn)行了調(diào)查。
他們發(fā)現(xiàn)，90%的夫妻在有了孩子之后“婚姻滿意度降低”。
丹佛大學(xué)的心理學(xué)教授斯科特?斯坦利解釋稱(chēng)，沒(méi)有孩子的夫妻也會(huì)面臨同樣的問(wèn)題，只不過(guò)是早晚的問(wèn)題。
他說(shuō)：“時(shí)間久了，沒(méi)有孩子的夫妻的婚姻質(zhì)量也會(huì)逐漸下降。“
”但生孩子會(huì)加速這一過(guò)程，尤其是在孩子出生后不久的調(diào)整階段。”
這項(xiàng)在《個(gè)性與社會(huì)心理學(xué)雜志》上發(fā)表的研究成果表明，對(duì)婚前就已同居的人來(lái)說(shuō)，孩子對(duì)兩人關(guān)系的影響更為嚴(yán)重，這可能是因?yàn)閮扇碎L(zhǎng)期形成的共同的生活規(guī)律被新成員打破了。
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